The relationship is over.
The dust has settled.
And you're... "fine"
Life is still happening, and you’ve even been on a couple dates.
But deep down you’re feeling disoriented — trying to figure out what you want going forward or even what you value.
The relationship twisted you around. The ending of the relationship shattered you.
You are me.
I am you.
I felt the same way after my relationship of 20 years ended.
After the sleepless nights of crying in the car, after hitting the gym too hard, after binging self-help content on YouTube, after a string of dates I wasn't really present for, after doubling-down into work…
I was hollow.
I judged myself because the grief hadn’t cleared.
The way back to myself wasn’t through external achievement — and it certainly wasn’t aligning myself with a prescription for “how to be a man” based on what some influencer says.
What worked?
Going deep inside, processing the grief out of my body, and finding my way back to center.
Only then did I align with a path forward, goal setting, new women, new adventures, etc.
I became a certified relationship coach through the Somatica Institute. I went further into men’s circles and men’s work facilitation. And eventually, I found the contentment that arises for no reason — it’s the fundamental contentment that waits for all of us when we are patient and wise.
If you need support, I’m here. Schedule an hour with me to sort things out and explore if coaching is right for you or if something else is a better fit.
Certified Advanced Somatica Sex and Relationship Coach
Mankind Project I-Group Facilitation Training
Nearly ten years facilitating and participating in men's circles
Host of the Polarity Unscripted podcast -- honest conversations about relationships, gender roles, and the interior lives of men
There is no magic.
You’re going to have to establish a better relationship to yourself, face the parts of you that you wish weren’t there (the weakness, hurt, aggression, etc.), and heal the wounds that caused the relationship to fail in the first place.
Anyone who tells you that this is easy or quick is lying.
I haven’t “created a method” or anything like that. Rather, I support other men with the techniques I’m trained in and the practices that worked for me — but tailor-fit for you.
These include:
Processing trauma and stuck emotions (by working with the body — and staying away from the “story” that’s kept you stuck)
Finding your deepest center and strength (through meditation and practices that connect you to other people)
Creating new narratives about yourself, your relationship, and its ending (so you can fully move on)
Developing a life mission that’s bigger than yourself
You shouldn’t have to go through this alone. Reach out now.